It’s a new year, friends! Happy 2012! I have to say 2011 was probably one of the most challenging years I can remember ever living through – but wow, God taught me a lot. That’s usually the way it goes, right? We don’t get a workout just sitting there – we have to actually go run – or jog – or walk. But we start. Our muscles get stretched, and pushed, and often tired. But we see results on the other side.
Since the book came out this past fall, it has been a thrill and a humbling privilege to hear from many of you who have read it and identified with my experiment. Just yesterday I got a note from a reader that made me smile and go “aww.” Reba wrote that as a working mom, a mom of four – including two adopted children from another country – she has often felt criticism for being a Christian and for working. She sees her job as a teacher as a ministry, and neither she or her husband feel like she’s supposed to step away from that. She knows she does good for her husband and her family… but she said she also goes to bed many times “feeling defeated.”
But after reading the book, she said that she feels “better. I feel encouraged. I feel challenged. I feel understood.”
Thank you so much, Reba, for sharing that. I am so glad God used the book to encourage you in your own journey as a wife and mom. He is certainly still teaching me! Every day seems to offer a new lesson, and sometimes I get it – and sometimes He has to put me in the remedial class.
Just yesterday I was having a mini-panic attack as I was looking at the “master” to-do list I thought would be a good idea to start of everything I “need” to do. The problem with my to-do lists is I don’t just write down things like “go get groceries for the week,” or “get the oil changed in the car.” No, I also write down things like “plan out the new Bible study” and “redo website.” And then kick myself because it’s been a week and I haven’t gotten it done. Yeah. Really need to get that overachievement growth removed sometime. (And please, before the emails start – yes, I know about breaking down projects and taking them little steps at a time. I just don’t do that very well.)
But then I was reminded this morning of where my focus needs to start. And it’s not on the to-do list. See if this situation sounds familiar to you.
While they were traveling, He entered a village, and a woman named Martha welcomed Him into her home. She had a sister named Mary, who also sat at the Lord’s feet and was listening to what He said. But Martha was distracted by her many tasks, and she came up and asked, “Lord, don’t You care that my sister has left me to serve alone? So tell her to give me a hand.” The Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and upset about many things, but one thing is necessary. Mary has made the right choice, and it will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:38-42)
Sometimes I can so identify with Martha. Jesus may not be physically sitting in my house, but often I am still rushing around just like He is, wanting to “do” and complete all of these plans to honor Him. But how often are those plans His? How often are they, maybe, just maybe, just little ole’ mine? And He has a much different idea for me?
So… I know many of you are looking forward to the P31 challenges this year – I am too! – but before we jump in, and before we even start the first one I’d planned to announce this week – we’re going to take a little detour and for our first challenge, remind ourselves where our focus needs to start.
Because whatever you desire to do this year – whether it’s get a little better in your cooking, or your organization or your parenting – our focus as wives and moms starts with God and His plans for our year.
My greatest need – my greatest task, if you will – is to know God better. Yes, I can be a doer. And yes, like Mary, Martha’s sister, I can be a thinker, and focus on the thoughts of God. But the bottom line is knowing Him. Period.
So this week, YOUR CHALLENGE IS to spend a little time with Him each day. Put Him first before everything else.
Something new I’m going to do for these challenges in 2012 is just have you respond to this original post (instead of doing another one on Fridays). I’d love to hear how the challenge goes for you. Some of you like the accountability of that. Or, in the immortal words of Nike, just do it. And don’t feel like you have to post. But seek God and ask Him to change your life. He will!
Here are some additional readings this week that may be helpful in reminding you more about where our focus should be. I pray this first challenge is your best!
Monday – Luke 10:39-42
Tuesday – Psalm 46:10-11
Wednesday – Matthew 6:25-34
Thursday – Matthew 11:28-30
Friday – Philippians 4:6-7








I really can’t thank you enough. I have thought about your book so much since reading it this past weekend; I finished it shortly after I sent the e-mail to you. I have to admit, I wanted to call you yesterday (not that we really know each other, it just feels that way after reading your book
when we were stuck by the road in Mississippi with a flat tire, trying desperately to get home (eight hours away). I was wondering how to be a Proverbs 31 wife in the midst of all of that. But we got through it. Anyway, I look forward to doing the challenge. And you are exactly right…I need to make sure I am spending time with Him every day before I just jump into what I think I should do. Thank you for the reminder.
Hi Reba! Flat tires are no fun! Glad you were able to get through it. For me, if I have to sum up the P31 wife, especially a year after finishing my “experiment” – it’s all about the heart. Not necessarily the check lists, the tasks, the to-dos. It really comes down to my attitude. I still wrestle with this occasionally, but I can tell you my attitude has changed dramatically from how it used to be. And that is definitely only because of God working in my life and when I have that time with Him each day, I’m reading His Word and applying it to my heart and life. Glad you’re taking on the challenge!
Hello, I just learned about your book a week or so ago and I still need to get a copy but I wanted you to know that I thank you for taking the time each day to reach out to other Proverb 31 women. And thank you for listening to the Lord and letting Him lead you.
As I laid in bed Saturday night thinking about what all the new year is going to bring for my family and myself, I talked to God and told him that things HAD to be different this year. And I know why this past year was a struggle for me…….I never put Him first. Oh dont get me wrong I talk to Jesus all thru the day, but the bible says that He wants our TIME, TALENT AND TREASURE. Believe me, I am working on all three but the one I have failed miserably in is time.
I am tired of making excuses….baby needs feed or the floors need swept or that load of laundry has to be folded NOW! Or even worse “I deserve to sit and watch some tv or be on FB after all that I have done today”. I might not be mentally saying that in my head but I know that is what I really am thinking. So after the homeschooling and the baby and the housework and just being a mom/wife and then throw in some time for ME it is bed time and another day has gone by and I never gave any of my time to Him.
So it might be almost super time but I am giving Him some time…..now.
In Christ,
Amy
Hi Amy, that is definitely a problem I think we all struggle with. Managing our time. I do find, though, that when I put Him first, the rest falls into place. And what doesn’t… well, it probably isn’t as important as I think it might be.
What I really love about the P31 Challenge is that I am talking with God much more frequently throughout the day. I am asking him for encouragement or strength to continue striving to be a good wife and mom. I can almost hear Him whispering to my heart encouraging words when I catch myself getting off-track. I am just so inspired by your story and very thankful to you for writing it!
This is definitely going to be a challenge for me, but what a great opportunity to grow as a Christian wife and mother! Thanks so much!
That’s exactly it, Mary! Focusing on Him throughout the day is exactly what we all need to do. I’m enjoying reading your blog and how your adventure is going!
I just made a commitment to stay regular with my quiet times. Being on church staff and in ministry it is easy to get caught up in what’s need to be done. But in reality, if I don’t spend time with Him my ministry suffers, my marriage suffers and the list goes on.
It is hard for me to get up in the morning but I have done it for the past 3 days. I am excited to see how God will be working in me this year.
Plan to read your book again and then share it with my friends. It truly opened my eyes to what I need to do for me!
Thanks so much!
Hi Jennifer, totally know what you mean. When you’re in ministry and it’s on your mind and heart 24/7, it’s sometimes easy to make excuses, isn’t it? This is something I have to work on each day as well. We can never go wrong when we put Him first!
What a wonderful post! The scripture from Luke 10:38-42 was one I definitely needed to see. So many times, I put off the important things for the things that don’t make a bit of difference in the world! One of my husband’s main frustrations with me is that I am always late… If we are heading to his family’s house, I’m not ready because I’m trying to finish a dessert to take over. If we are on our way to church, I need to pick up one more thing. The examples are endless and while I always have good intentions, I need to remember that the important thing is pleasing my husband and if that means that I don’t get to bring a dessert, nobody will mind or probably even notice!! I am so quick to put Brandon on the backburner and even quicker to do the same with my time with Christ. Thank you for sharing this wonderful scripture… It’s going to be printed on my bathroom mirror so that every morning I’ll be reminded to take the time and do the important things first!
Raegan
Frillylittledetails.blogspot.com
Raegan, thanks so much for commenting. I’m glad that scripture helped!
I have put this to practice already this year. This was my new year resolution to spend time with God everyday. I have started with 30 minutes and hope to be in the word longer as the year goes. The blessings are awesome they have just been pouring out. I am so excited as I am seeing him reveal to me where I really need to be.
I can relate to Raegan this is how I have been in the past. I am learning to put what is most important first the rest takes care of itself.
Thanks, Traci Gaydon
Traci, that is wonderful. I’m glad God’s showing you the blessings of putting Him first.
Thank you so much Sara for this challenge. After finishing your book this past weekend I had decided to begin the new year challenging myself..but now I know i’m not alone, and I love the weekly tasks. I am striving to be a better wife and mama and today was feeling overwhelmed with not getting everything finished, then braxton hicks contractions began and I could cry I was so overwhelmed and feeling defeated. Then I found your post and scripture about Martha…and I fell to pieces crying. It doesnt matter if everything gets finished it’s about my attitude and actions towards my family. I cant wait to see how my life and families life changes due to this challenge!
Sisters in Christ!
Stevie