Book Club Discussion Question #6:
Does your husband listen to your advice? How do you influence him? How do you influence your family? (pp. 85-87)
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My husband will sometimes listen to my advice. I am learning the longer I am married and a mother to be sensitve to God and His wisdom and not to go in with both guns a blazing so to speak.
My husband does listen to my advice. We agree on a lot I’ve learned to make suggestions when there is peace in the family instead of trying to control a situation when everyone is upset. My husband and children are more willing to listen when we can discuss something instead of raising our voices in an out-of-control situation. If we have a game plan to a situation it doesn’t need to escalate to a battle of wills but can be diffused more quickly. We pray and think through a situation and ask God for wisdom and we’ve learned that it really helps.
My husband and I have a close relationship. We both listen to what each other has to say. I believe he values my viewpoint as I value his. That does not mean we don’t disagree, or argue…just saying! It has not always been easy especially with so many deployments and Mom had to take charge, but after so many years of marriage I think we respect and care about how the other feels. I really hope I am a good influence, but I know I have influenced my husband for bad at times.
Yes, my husband listens to my advice. He actually seeks it. Besides my teaching degree, I also have a diploma from the school of hard knocks, which, now that’s it’s over, I don’t regret as it has brought me strength and wisdom from God as He brought me through it. My husband recognizes that and seeks my input. I influence him through not only this advice, but through my actions. He says that he has learned a lot from me and the things I do for people (PLEASE don’t mistake this for bragging, because I don’t think I’m as nice as he makes me out to be!) things that he never thought of doing until he saw me. I think that’s the best kind of influence you can have on anyone. Hmmm, maybe I DO have a legacy!
My husband always values what I have to say, but there are times where he does not like it, haha. I try to influence him by setting an example. For instance, he really wants to do this warrior dash that is coming up next year. I know that if I set a schedule for him and make time in my schedule to train with him, that he will actually train for it
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I know thats a strange example, but I believe that it shows that he does value what I have to say and how we work together as a team. We always try and discuss every situation at hand, and come up with some type of compromise to where each individual is pleased.
Joel does listen to me, but I have learned I can best influence him by treating him with love and respect always. In addition, I try to set an example for him. One area I have been unsuccessful in is in the area of eating right and exercise. He just doesn’t like to exercise like I do. I have continued to model the behavior without putting pressure on him, pray for him and hope that one day he will make the decision for himself. He did surprise me and ran a 10k with me recently and actually admitted he enjoyed it! With God ALL things are possible!
My husband most definitely listens to my advice. He is a very practical man and knows that in many areas I really do have more experience than he does. So, he will take my advice. If it is something that really does not matter a whole lot there are times he just does something quickly to avoid me making a process longer than it has to be. It is ok, somehow it all seems to work out pretty perfectly.. (USUALLY)
He always listens to my advice, especailly about the kids. I try not to force my advice on him or give it without him wanting it. That has taken some time to get used to.
My husband and I always listen to each other and see what the other has to say. My husband has a good heart and doesn’t like to cause conflict of any kind with anyone. Sometimes over the years I have had to make him listen so as not to jump to conclusions or anything. But overall, we make a good team and with God on our side how can we not?
As wonderful as my husband is, I have a hard time changing his mind once it’s made up. Having said that, he does listen to me. If something is really bothering me, he does take into consideration my feelings. My favorite times are when we come together to make a decision. He does ask my advice on occasion.
My husband and I both look to each other for advice and help when we need it. We make major decisions together and trust that the other will not lead us down a bad road. We definitely are a team and I feel that is one thing I have accomplished as a Proverbs 31 wife!