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Avocado Salads and Salad Dressing Contest

Monday, August 22nd, 2011

I mentioned a couple of weeks ago that I’d discovered this wonderful avocado salad at a sushi place my husband and I went to and that Ms. Nancy and I had attempted to recreate it. My Facebook friends instantly asked for a recipe which made me chuckle a little because seriously, it was just cutting up avocado, adding it on top of lettuce and then using a store-bought asian sesame dressing.

But all of this was new to me because I had never actually cut up an avocado before, and when Ms. Nancy had said she was running to the store to look for some ripe avocados, I literally jumped up and asked if I could go. Because I’ve never bought avocados either.

First, did you know the avocado is a fruit? I didn’t.

Nor did I know that really ripe avocados need to be almost black. Which totally explains why all the green avocados I’ve ever tried to pick up in the store felt so hard and unappealing.

So when my MIL was out of the house last week, I decided to attempt the avocado salad again. I had bought a couple of more avocados a few days earlier (couldn’t find any already ripe so had to wait for those to turn black themselves). Cliff wanted at least one of them for guacamole so I was going to use the other one for a salad.

First thing I did was use the nifty lettuce knife Ms. Nancy bought a couple of months ago to chop off some lettuce off a chunk of heart of romaine. And to think, for so long, I thought lettuce only came in a bag. This is a much nicer, less wasteful approach.

 

Then it was time to slice the avocado in half. Ms. Nancy had explained to me during our little teaching session the week before that the way to do it is take your knife and slowly cut through the avocado and basically around the big seed in the middle.

“OK, go ahead and turn the avocado,” she’d told me. And yes, in a very Amelia Bedelia-like moment… I turned the avocado over.

“Um, no, I meant twist it, like this,” she said. So taking my hands, I twisted the two halves together around the seed in the middle, which separated them nice and easy.

So the other day when I was attempting this on my own, Cliff joined me in the kitchen. My husband LOVES to cook and he loves to help which makes it a challenge sometimes for me to learn to do things for myself. And as you’ll read in the book, I found out during my Proverbs 31 wife experiment that part of the reason he knows so much in the kitchen is because he was a member of Future Homemakers of America in high school. Yeah. So not fair.

As I was about to take my knife and cut around the seed to get it out, Cliff got all excited and stopped me. “Wait, you gotta see this, it’s my little trick somebody showed me.” Taking his knife, he gave the seed a little whack, and pulled it out in one nice easy motion.

I have to say, I was impressed. Now if I ever need to take out a little aggression, I know I just need to go find an avocado seed to stab. The next step was to get rid of the peeling. Running my knife around the very ripe avocados, this was pretty easy.

After slicing the avocados up, my salad was ready to serve.

The only thing that was really missing was a great dressing. I mentioned earlier my MIL and I had found a store-bought dressing, which was ok, but the color was brown and the taste was just alright.

CONTEST ALERT

So, I thought you, my readers, might help me out with a great dressing. Comment below with your best homemade salad dressing recipe that would work for this salad. My family will pick the three that sound the most interesting, make them, try them out and pick a winner who will receive a copy of My So-Called Life as a Proverbs 31 Wife. I’ll try to announce the winner by this Friday.

Happy recipe posting!

 

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Meatloaf

Thursday, August 18th, 2011

The other day I mentioned on our Facebook page that I had meatloaf on the menu for dinner and I asked the ladies what their best meatloaf recipes were. One woman asked if meatloaf recipes actually existed – she just throws stuff together, and voila, meatloaf!

Ah, she is a blessed woman.

Because I am not one of those who can just throw things together. Because when I throw things together, it is usually more likely to end up in the trash than my family’s stomachs. And so I need recipes.

Which is why I asked for them. See, my question on FB wasn’t just to offer a start-up to some fun conversation. No, I really needed a meatloaf recipe. My MIL, who is traveling with my FIL this week, called on her first day out to remind us there was a 3-pound thing of hamburger meat sitting in the fridge and we had to do something with it. So I took at least half of it and made up hamburger patties to freeze and have later. And then I needed to make meatloaf. But I wasn’t exactly sure what all to put in it. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve made meatloaf before. I’ve put the bread crumbs, the egg and the Worcestershire sauce in. But I wanted something maybe a little different for this particular evening.

And the page didn’t disappoint. I had several ladies willing to share their culinary meatloaf wisdom with me. (Their recipes are at the bottom of this page if you too need meatloaf recipes.)

Missy’s recipe sounded interesting to me, only because the “1 can of tomatoes with onion and green pepper” sounded suspiciously like Rotel (and Rotel, if you are not from the South, is like a pantry staple for southerners. Or maybe just Louisiana-ers.)

The only problem was I didn’t have a can of Rotel in the pantry. (My MIL is falling down on her job again. I’m trying to teach her, but it’s tough.) I did, however, have a can of diced tomatoes. And I did have a packet of Season-all (another great little dinner add-in) in the freezer which had onions and peppers.

So for ingredients, I took the diced can of tomatoes, sauteed the frozen onions and green peppers and drained those, added those to the meat as well as a box of Stove-top (cornbread style – didn’t have breadcrumbs, that I could find anyway, and one of the other recipes suggested Stove-top, so I thought, why not?), salt and pepper, one egg, and a little worcestershire sauce, though I probably should have added more. And then I squished away with my fingers, making sure it was all evenly mixed.

I’ll admit, even though I split the meat when I opened it from the package, it was still a whole lot of meatloaf I was working with for just three people. And I wasn’t quite sure what pan I should cook it in. Because my mother-in-law has certain pans that aren’t necessarily off limits, but if I mess them up, I will be getting her new pans. As in traveling to the ends of the earth to try and find replacements. They are those kind of pans. Read More→

The Power of Our Words

Monday, August 15th, 2011

 

If there is one thing I am learning as a wife and mom, it is the power that our words have on the people around us. As I write about in the book, I’ve learned that I’m the thermostat of my family. If Mama’s hot (as in angry, steamed, ticked off) – things can get really uncomfortable in our household. If I’m cold (like the stony silent type, or bitterly sarcastic) – the frostbite can be severe.

Now outside elements can always influence our families. Severe heat from things beyond our control can surround us, a strong blowing wind can threaten to knock us down – but our words can still have impact on how our family feels inside our homes. Because when things are tough outside, it is in our home that I as a wife and mom really want to make feel secure.

So, if I am the the thermostat of my family, than my words can be the buttons that control the overall temperature my family feels. The climate my family experiences. 

What are my words saying today?

Sharon Jaynes has a wonderful book called The Power of a Woman’s Words that I highly recommend and have shared with friends (in fact, I can’t quote from it because it’s with a friend at the moment! ) She discusses the way our words can impact (or detract) in all of our relationships – from our husbands to our children to our friends we meet for coffee every once in a while. What we say makes such a difference – and we can certainly bring good, or harm, depending on the words we use.

Word-Dropping

So where do you start, if you feel like your buttons (words) need some realigning? I think one of the easiest things to start with is finding the words you can eliminate – like name-calling.

I don’t believe there is any room for name-calling in a family. When Cliff and I got married, one of the commitments we made to each other was that we would never call each other, or our future children, names. Words like stupid, moron, idiot, dummy – even in the spirit of kidding, these are not words that will ever build up or encourage the very people we love. So we don’t do say them. There are plenty of people outside your home that will fire these stinging darts of name-calling – don’t allow those darts to be shot within your home too.

A Foundation of Words

Words also have the power to change how we feel, or to remind us how we feel about something. Several years ago, I listened to a series of Zig Ziglar audio CDs and he talked about the power of words, and shared how he will often answer his phone with something like “This is Zig, the husband of the most beautiful lovely woman you will ever meet!” (He’ll also do it with other family members, like his children.) This was during a period of stress for our family and I had found myself getting grumpier and grumpier with my husband. I was focusing more and more on the things that he did that annoyed me and less on all of the wonderful things about him that I loved so much.

So I started referring to him as Handsome. I would address him as Handsome in little notes or cards, or texts we sent on our phones. And I noticed the more I said it, the more my heart softened and the less irritable I was with him. He didn’t necessarily start doing everything exactly how I wanted – he didn’t change overnight into my expectation of how he should be –  but it was more about my attitude changing. And much to my personal thrill, a year after I started calling him Handsome, he started calling me Beautiful. And two years later, we still call each other these words. And I have this little fantasy that one day when we’re old and gray and sitting in our rocking chairs on the porch, we won’t even call each other by our real names. Just Handsome and Beautiful.

The Powerful Blessing of Words

I already mentioned last week the “sendoff” I do with my son each morning before school. As my son gets older (he just started his last year of elementary school! YIKES!), I’m very aware of how my words impact him. Spoken and unspoken. I want my words to bless him. To challenge him in a good way. To help him. Not to tear him down. Not to frustrate him. Not to discourage him. But I’m not always good in this. Sometimes I let my feelings jump ahead of my tongue. And I say things I wish I could take back. But you can’t take back words. You can, however, apologize for them.

Some parents don’t like apologizing to their kids- for whatever reason, they think it makes them look weak, or their authority will be weakened. But I think telling your child sorry when you’ve done something wrong (and hurting feelings or snapping or losing your temper is doing something wrong) offers a great example for them. And keeps the path of communication between you and your child open.

So, take some time today to think about the words you say. Do they bring good? Or harm? Are they honoring? Or condemning? Do they show love? Or do they cause old wounds to reopen?

Be a blessing with your words today. Be intentional about the temperature of your family. It may be hot outside right now, but it can feel pleasantly cool when your words are kind and encouraging.

 

Do you think about your words? Share a location (anywhere) that has your ideal perfect temperature that you wish your words would reflect. 

 

 

 

Photo Friday

Friday, August 12th, 2011

Today I brought my Handsome coffee and a Twinkie for an afternoon snack.

Sometimes it’s the words we say. And sometimes it’s what we don’t say at all.

Monday, we’ll say a whole lot more about this…

Hope you’ll join me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

(And over the weekend, if you haven’t already, like our Facebook page! There are 20 books ready to find 20 new homes if we hit 1000 friends before Sunday night.)

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My So-Called Life BEFORE The Proverbs 31 Wife

Friday, August 12th, 2011

The following is something that I was asked by my publicist to write to give interested media a little background on what I’m “about.” I thought you might like to read it too. 

It’s an interesting process to write an “experience-based” book. You’re essentially taking a year from your life and offering it in freeze frame form. And yet after the last page is written, the story still continues. And I am definitely not the same person I was when I sat down to write the first page.

I’ve had a relationship with Christ since one night when I was 5 years old and my father, at my request, led me in asking Jesus to come into my life. I grew up in church, grew up wanting to pursue whatever God’s desire was for me, and as I got into high school and college, wrestling with that over my own desires for my life. But as a sophomore at summer camp, I rededicated my life to God, willing and ready to serve in whatever way He asked me to.

In those early years, I pursued singing Christian music. I was convinced that was what God was calling me to do and went to a Christian university and pursued music ministry. Until the year He made it extremely obvious that writing was the direction He really wanted to take me. It’s been an amazing adventure ever since.

Marriage and having a family has also been an adventure, but I must confess that for years, being a wife and a mom was not always the priority for me. Instead, my list of accomplishments in writing books or award-winning articles was much more desirable to me than getting dinner on the table or helping my little guy with homework.

A bit of selfishness tainted any blessing I might have received from the good work I was doing. Because everything that kept me busy was God-related. Writing Christian books, serving in my ministry to military wives, pursuing my desire to be the person God used to make a difference in the lives of others. But it was done out of my terms and my desires. And my family often suffered as the result of my self-imposed busyness.

But God grabbed my attention and opened my heart in a very unexpected way one Sunday morning. I was already worn out. I was already feeling guilty that the one area of my life I could not claim accomplishment in was with the very people I loved the most. And then my pastor started preaching on the Proverbs 31 wife. And I just got mad.

But God used that anger and turned it into a quest for something more. Definitely not on my terms. But His.

NOTHING turned out the way I’d intended it when I started this experiment in trying to be the Proverbs 31 wife. And there were several moments early on I questioned the sense in even trying to complete it. But I’m glad He kept me going. Because I learned that more than a change in my housekeeping habits, I needed a change in my heart. (And amazingly, once that change in my heart started, the housekeeping habits kind of improved a little too!)

As this book gets ready to release, my husband has just come home from his second deployment. Our son has turned 10 and is starting fifth grade. These days, I am still not a perfect wife and mom. But I would say I am a different wife then who I was two years ago. I am softer. I am kinder (most days). I’m a lot more willing to do laundry without complaining, daily it seems. I try to approach each day with less focus on myself and much more attention on what God wants for my family and me that day. I’m still doing ministry and still writing books. But it is not all who I am. God is teaching me that relationship means more than accomplishment. And the relationships that matter most start with Him, and then with my husband and my child.

I don’t think I will ever be a perfect cook or housekeeper. But my honest heartfelt prayer today is that I will be the wife and mom God’s called me to be. That is what I am pursuing. And He is leading me. One step, and laundry load, at a time.

Our biggest Facebook contest yet

Thursday, August 11th, 2011

My So-Called Life as a Proverbs 31 Wife

UPDATE! We reached 1000 fans a couple of hours before the deadline this past Sunday night! Thank you so much to everyone who has joined the page! The winners for this giveaway were: Jenna Dilley, Karen Logan, Danaie Alvarado, Sarah Williams Gill, Jamie Dressler, Mendy Hardin Erwin, Sheila Hill, Kerre Sanders Thorne, Victoria Dempsey Hage, Getfa Amburgey, Emily Cook Skaggs, Ashley Payne, Beth Reavis, Becci Hull, Nebby Sonnetbird, Dorothy Miller, Lauren Tomas, Jennie McGuire, Melinda Womack and Michael-Jessica Bolton. 

I LOVE doing giveaways. So if you haven’t joined the Facebook fan page yet, you are missing out! Because I’ve already given 11 copies away, and the book doesn’t come out for over 2 more weeks!

As I’ve been telling our Facebook friends, I would love to see our page grow to 1000 before the book actually releases. So I’m ready to issue the biggest challenge and giveaway we’ve done so far -

If we hit 1000 fans on the MyProverbs31Life Facebook page by THIS Sunday night (August 14, which by the way is the day before my husband’s birthday!) at 9 p.m. CST, I will give away not 10 copies as I’d originally planned, but TWENTY copies. That means you’ll DOUBLE your chances to win a copy before you can buy!

But wait! There’s more! I really wanted to do something extra for those who have been so wonderful in sharing the book with their friends…

If you share the link (facebook.com/myproverbs31life)  with friends on your own Facebook page and copy and paste that status on the MyProverbs31Life fan page wall – you’ll receive an extra entry for the giveaway. And you can do this once per day, through Sunday night at 9 p.m. CST, to qualify.

Right now we’re at 656. That’s quite a few people to get to 1000. We may not be able to do it. I may only be able to give away 10 copies. But I’d really love to give away 20. So encourage your friends to go check out the page and “like” it. Cause I really “like” giving away free books!

It makes me happy.

So, to summarize, if you’re like me and need to hear things more than once:

1. “Like” the Facebook page for MyProverbs31Life.

2. Share with your friends and encourage them to do the same. 

3. Post a link to the fan page on your own Facebook page (once per day through Sunday).

4. Copy and paste that status on the Facebook wall for MyProverbs31Life (once per day) to receive extra entries for the drawing.

5. IF we hit 1,000 fans before Sunday night at 9 p.m. CST, I will draw 20 names to receive a free copy of the book before you can buy it. 

Good luck!!

 

Back to school with midnight prayers and morning omelets

Thursday, August 11th, 2011

Caleb's First Day of 5th GradeToday is the day that children dread and parents rejoice.

Ah yes, the First Day of School. The day that signals the close of summer and the arrival (eventually – I do live in Louisiana, after all) of fall.

I’ll be honest. Most years I look forward to the first day of school for very selfish reasons. I want my time back. I want my routine back. I want just a few hours of uninterrupted concentration. Summer times have often been more frustrating than enjoyable for me (and my son would probably say the same) because despite knowing that things obviously have to be a little different in this particular season of the year, I, in my stubbornness, have usually tried to keep things the same. Meaning lots of writing projects, deadlines and stress levels that would rival Wall Street.

But it’s summer, for cryin’ out loud. And for the first time since I probably became a mom, starting this past spring, I finally in this thick head of mine let this fact sink in.

And I did things different.

This summer, there were no writing projects. Instead, there was cookie making. And bowling dates. And swimming in the afternoons. There were trips to the library and to the movies, trips out of town and little trips for ice cream or a cherry limeade.

Sure, there were little projects here or there I had to work on. But they were the minority and not the majority of how I spent my time this summer.

And I don’t feel nearly as guilty on the first day of school today as I’ve done in past years. Because I know I gave more of me than less.

But I’m still excited about sending my 5th grader off – because now I have several uninterrupted hours to work on what I need to – and focus on him when he gets home. Because I love being his mom.

Even at midnight, which is what time he woke me up last night. Read More→

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Sweet surprises

Monday, August 8th, 2011

SURPRISE!

I have been keeping a secret for the last six weeks or so that has been the hardest thing to do, especially for this social-media-who-posts-what-she’s-drinking-for-coffee-butterfly.

But I can finally share it -

My husband, my Handsome, my Cliff, CAME HOME EARLY!!

After being gone for 10 months, serving with his Navy Reserves group in South and Central America, he was expected to come home at the end of August, but we found out sometime in June that the date most likely would be moved up.

Having done this “military” thing for awhile now… I’ve learned that “most likely” means don’t say anything until his feet hit the floor – as in the floor of your house – and he is indeed home.

So we decided to keep it a surprise. Meaning no posting on FB or Twitter, no telling friends or family, and continuing to tell what could technically be considered little white lies every time someone asked when he was coming home.

And it was good we did – because the date changed a couple of times and at one point, we thought he’d arrive here Thursday night but that got moved to Friday afternoon. (So I was the only one who had to deal with the grumpies on that one…)

Then we decided we needed to bring Cliff’s mom in on it, because we wanted to get everyone to Sammy’s, a local Cajun food favorite here in town (and where Cliff really wanted a crawfish poboy as his first meal back) – but let’s be honest – no one’s gonna listen to me. But they will listen to Ms. Nancy. Read More→

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